My friends always wondered why I never went back to complete the Diploma program I registered for in Private Polytechnic. The excuse I gave was that it was clashing with my final year in the University and even though I was not your model student in class I was not in anyway ready for any extra year. Well this is why I never returned:
It was a really stressful rainy morning in 2007, the maths' lecturer had just given some impromptu test and I cannot remember why I was in such a shitty mood. It was a really cold morning as there had been rain the night before. We were waiting for the lecturer to come in and this boy walked into the class and switched on the fan which was directly above my head. The girl sitting beside me complained and told him to switch it off but he refused.
Not saying a word, I stood up to switch off the fan. He got up and switched it on again, I was mad and I got up again to switch off the fan. He stood by the switch and as I tried to switch off the fan again, he pushed me.
I staggered and almost fell, I was like 4 years older than this guy and I was really hot-tempered back then, I landed him a terribly hot slap. Terribly hot I say because I felt the pain. He tried to hit me again and I landed him another slap. For every hand he raised to hit me, he got a slap before his hand came down, I gave him about 4 slaps that morning.
I was terribly irritated when instead of my lecturers to listen to what happened, all I heard was "What audacity did I have to slap a boy". Like these people were freaking kidding me, a guy had pushed me and tried to hit me and you are asking me why I slapped him. After that session, I never returned to the school because I never forgave my lecturers and so listening in their class was difficult for me.
I watched the video of DKB slapping Zainab in the on going Big Brother Africa game. I also watched when Hannigton hit Lerato in the Big Brother Africa Season 5 series. I hear the 2 Zimbaweans have also been evicted from the house for violence.
I am really not one for violence but when you provoke people, particularly when you emotionally provoke them, you deserve what you get, shikena. That is my 2 cents. Women liberation all you want, it is not right for a man to raise his hand on a woman, if I was in DKB's shoes, I would do the same thing. If you watched BBA in 2010, you will remember the Lerato slap also. She also provoked Hannington, I still cannot get which is worse. I don't get why there is so much violence in BBA self, these people are practically doing nothing that makes sense for 3 months so I guess they just feel good flexing muscle.
I actually hate when the whole gender card is pulled out when it is glaring to all that the gender been supported is the one at fault. Women are nowadays are becoming unnecessarily aggressive, because after watching the whole DKB/Zainab slap video I just wanted to dash Zainab another slap for embarrassing the women community like that. Your mouth cannot be running like that like that and not get slapped. Shebi they say she is married, what is she looking for in the bathroom when the guy was taking his bath.
I have seen women openly provoke their men just like Zainab did, some even worse. I have seen women stand up to bullying men. Some women now even assault their men and when the man dares raise his hand, she will shout and cry crocodile tears. We need to stop justifying our bad actions and run under the cover of gender violence/inequality when we get what we deserve. I am a no violence to women and children supporter but I would not castigate the man if the women is to blame for the violence. Don't go looking for trouble and start crying foul when you experience the consequences.
This is my two cents...forgive all typos.
Kisses from Bonn